Jackie Frith Coaching How often do you catch yourself saying really nasty and damn right rude things to yourself?

A few times more than you would like to admit I am sure

None of us are perfect and we all have the little Mind Monkey sat on the shoulder telling us we should have done this or why did you do that you stupid woman !!

Sound familiar? I’m sure it does

We have to learn to make our self talk positive and uplifting. Think about how you talk to your Best Friend, would they still be your Best Friend if you constantly told them what they were always doing wrong and how rubbish they were. I doubt it!!

It all starts with a little self-love and self respect

A great book to read on this is You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay. When Louise has a new client she always gets them to start with learning how to love themselves first.

A great way to do this is to keep saying this affirmation over and over again:

I Love, Accept and Respect Myself

When you walk past a mirror look into it and tell yourself how fabulous you are looking today. It may seem a bit strange at first but you will get used to it after a few times.

Over time you will start to notice how you speak differently to yourself. I am not saying that you are never going to chastise yourself ever again but you will start to notice the times when you do. And if you do THAT IS OK. Do not start to then beat yourself up because you have had a bad thought about yourself. When you have a bad thought about having a bad thought it will create more bad thoughts. Do you see where we are going with this?

You have heard the saying Speak to other’s the same way you would like to be spoken too, well that is so right in reverse. Speak to yourself the same way you would speak to other’s.

So go off now and start to train the little Mind Monkey to say nice things. Give it a name and then the next time it says something nasty, just say Hey Buddy I hear you and thanks for your comment. Then just let it go.

How do you control your Mind Monkey’s

Jackie x